Blame the political landscape, shoddy birth control access, limitless free porn on the internet, or the gig economy for the decline in the millennial libido—who can say for sure? Whatever the reason, Americans are boning less. As one of the top five horniest people of all time, this initially seemed concerning to me, but as it turns out, it might not be such a big deal. To be sure, not having any sex or a experiencing a sharp decline could be a sign of an unhappy relationship. Much like washing your hair , you don't need to have sex as often as you think—at least according to a study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science , which suggests any amount over once a week is simply overkill, especially if you're not feeling it. That may seem obvious, but there's a persistent belief out there that quantity of sex correlates precisely with the happiness of a couple, with no upper limit.
This Is How Often Happy Couples Are Having Sex, According to Therapists
How much do happy couples have sex throughout their relationship? - Insider
Are you having as much sex as your friends? Are you experimenting with sex toys as often? Should you branch out beyond the bedroom? Still, you may start to worry when things hit a screeching halt between the sheets. So the question still stands: How often should happy couples really be having sex? We talked to several relationship experts to figure out the magic number, why it fluctuates, and what a healthy sex life should look like.
How Much Sex Does the Average Couple Have?
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes conflicting schedules, changing priorities and a laundry list of other reasons including actual laundry that just seem to get in the way of having sex. What really happens between the sheets for couples who are 5, 10, 15, 20 or more years past the initial hot-and-heavy phase of a relationship? And it turns out, even though kids and life can get in the way, in many cases there is plenty to look forward to when it comes to sex in the long term. We chatted with 11 couples about how often they get down, how sex has changed and how to keep the romance alive.
Why are we so obsessed with numbers? How often do you feel a kick? Once we're born everyone wants to know what level we read at, how high can we can count, what our SAT score was. The competition to be both normal and above average is endless, and endlessly frustrating. Hucksters trying to sell you a book or sex tape will give you a single answer to this question.